One of the most important things that a single parent can do is no matter what happens, do not use the children as pawns. Yes, this can be tough. Some of the hardest moments will be swallowing your anger and praising the kids father after a big fight.

If you are so angry that you feel the need to "trash" your ex partner, call a friend! No matter what has gone on, your kids have to know that they have the greatest parents on the planet. This is very important for their own security.

Who do you love most, me or Daddy? Put yourself in the place of a child who dearly loves both of their parents and does not want to let either of them down. Imagine the turmoil such a question would cause. Sadly enough, too many Single Parents do ask their child this question either directly or indirectly.

We've had a multitude of email from people saying "How can you expect me to say something nice about my ex? He/She is such a jerk and doesn't care about the kids!" It's hard. It's really hard. Your kids will appreciate it much more if you let them make their own decisions about their other parent.

As they grow, they will see what the person really is. No matter what a jerk your ex may be, your children could become resentful to you for not allowing them to decide on their own. Your children will respect you for allowing them to make their own minds up.

Do you find that your kids are reluctant to share what went on while they were away? Do you only find out through a third party what a blast they had? TELL your children that it's all right to have a good time at the other parent's house. Encourage them to share with you the good and the bad times. Next time, as they're heading out the door give them a hug and a kiss and with a BIG smile on your face tell them to have a great time. Your children will be able to enjoy their time more and not feel guilty.

I believe it's true. The Single Parent and their child(ren) have a special and close bond. This special bond is SO easy to overstep. Remember, you are the parent, they are the child. Do no share all of your woes, worries, and concerns with your child. Imagine what you would feel like if, as a small child, your parent were to tell you about their money, dating, or employment problems. Our kids have enough to worry about, let's try to keep their worries to every day kid stuff!

O.K., we've all done it at one time or another. You're mad at your ex and your kids are due to leave for their time with him/her at any minute. Suddenly, you start giving your child messages to pass on..."the cheque is late...you'd better be back by 6 this time..." and so on. Take a breath, think about it. This is not what your child's time with their parent is for and asking them to do so is like making them chose sides. Inhale, swallow your pride, and call your ex yourself!